I want to challenge each and every one of you with all of this, so that you might begin to expand or enlarge the beliefs that you do carry within your own psychological make-ups, which represent the boundaries or limits of your own possible life experiences. For after all, how can anyone grow beyond the beliefs they hold, that surround them like fences, if they do not even know they are there?
   Ultimately, this would cause them to improve the quality of their life and that of others, simply by being who they truly are. Who and what you really are –your identity- is actually much greater than what you can see of yourself in a mirror.
   In this article, I will not be speaking so much to the part of you that you know of as yourself, as I will to the part of you that you do not know. Understand that this takes into account that which involves the development of any human being, irrespective of where on the planet they may live.
   As any human being goes through their life, measuring that they experience by the “voice” of their own conscience, remember that this voice may speak to them with the “voices” of their own mothers, fathers, grandparents, adult caregivers, teachers, religious leaders, spiritual teachers, and so forth. The voice is their own or course, but the ideas behind it may not be.
   All of these people early on in their life helped shape them into the person they became. This was out of a loving concern, with their ideas of what was best for them and the world around them. They accepted this at the time and it was good. Nonetheless, one day it will become your own responsibility to grow your own voice of conscience to guide you in the journey of your life.
   This process is not so unlike that of a very young child who accepts the ideas given to them by their parents, because the child believes them to always be right, and somehow perfect. Yet later, as a much older child, they become almost shocked to learn of their parents not only being sometimes wrong, but also imperfect as well.
   Furthermore, they gradually begin to perceive the older generations in general as being somehow outdated, inferior, callous, and doing everything “wrong” – more or less. Nevertheless, these very things are used to help free the older child from the earlier childish concepts used to grow up with. In addition, this all provides the challenges to tackle personal and world problems as the older child becomes an adult and moves out into the world on their own.
   Remember that the new adult, who starts out on their own, brings with them this “voice of conscience” from their earlier experiences. In addition, for a while to come, the new adult feels invincible, almost somehow beyond the boundaries of physical life itself.  Without a doubt, it is this very quality, which provides the necessary drive or impetus to endow them with the strength and energy to begin a new life and form a world experience.
   Later on in the life, as they become a “seasoned life veteran,” there does indeed come a time when they may begin to reassess or reconsider what they have carried within their own psychological and emotional being throughout the life thus far; and this is the focus of this article. As they approach this “point of the life,” often they will come to sense an approaching “internal developmental milestone” as they first begin to question, and then to grow their own “voice of conscience.”
   To know where acceptable or appropriate life action lies, this voice of conscience is used. Sometimes, it will show itself as more of a feeling or a knowing rather than any words per se, as you reflect on your earlier life experiences. In the same way, that an older child will shed the childish concepts of earlier, the much older adult sheds the outgrown concepts of the very young adult. For to continue to hold some of these concepts, unchanged or unaltered in any way, effectively holds you back from self-actualization.
   In life, you are meant to express or manifest who and what you truly are inside, as compared to who and what you were raised to be. In order to do this, you must reach a point in your life where you do outgrow the earlier ideas that did help you to grow and develop, yet now they would be considered limitations or hindrances to your continued growth and development.
   This is where I use the expression “to grow your own voice of conscience.” Another way to explain this is that as the young adult grows and develops from the life experiences they have, from a young adulthood into a “seasoned life veteran,” they will find themselves to a greater or lesser degree attaining what I will call “self-knowledge.”
    This self-knowledge tends to bring about an end to “internal rules” and “regulations.” Instead, it substitutes the validity of the real personality, which I call the true personality. What you were “raised to be,” is separate and apart from this; however, it was necessary to help get you to a “certain point” of development in your life.
   Does all this suggest anything to you?

Until next time,

~ Charles Stewart

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